Confronting Infidelity

Joseph Hanoa is the founder of www.marriageadvising.com/, a website that answers questions dealing with couples help.

I Fell Out of Love...And Just Love Being in Love

Dr.Robert Huizenga,The Infidelity Coach,the founder of www.break-free-from-the-affair.com and author of “How to Break Free from the Affair.” A licensed Marriage&Family Therapist, Certified Social Worker.

I find this dilemma rather common for younger couples, probably mid or late 30s and younger.Usually one reports,“falling out of love” and is truly disturbed by this shift.He/she(and this is not merely a female problem!) wants to “recapture” those feelings

I caught my ex-husband three different times. His ex-girlfriend just happened to move into our apartment complex; he knew, but did not tell me. He had an 8-month affair with a woman who already had 3 children by 3 different men by the age of 23. He got her pregnant, she had an abortion. He got her pregnant again, and she had the baby. I did not find out about her until after I found out about the affair with his coworker, a married woman whose husband had divorced her before because of her affairs. They had remarried. After finding out about the coworker, I dug around and found out about the pregnant one. The only reason I didn't leave right away was because I was in college and wanted to finish, which I did, and I graduated 2nd in my class. We are divorced, I have a successful legal career, and I have remarried to a man who spoils me rotten.

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