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How to Catch A Cheating Husband

Ruth Houston, author of “Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs,” is a lifestyle and relationship writer. She has been a frequent guest on Good Day New York, TalkAmerica, the Mike Gallagher Show and other TV and radio talk shows nationwide.

If you stay alert to what’s going on, you’re unlikely to miss any significant signs. Use your senses – all of them.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years (together for 13) and have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. A week ago, I received a typewritten letter in the mail w/no return address informing me that he is having an affair and that his mistress is 12 weeks pregnant. He is 36 and she just turned 22. She refused to give up the child and he had known about the pregnancy for a month before I found out. He didn’t know when he was going to tell me or how. He has since moved out, but is not sure what he is going to do. He shuttles between friends and his brother’s house, but swears he is not going to her house. I still love him and want him to come home. I feel that we can deal with this situation, but he thinks that any passion that we had in the past is gone and is not sure it will be back. He tells me that he has strong feelings for this girl. He has been gone for a week, still talking to her as well as me and is not sure when he is going to make his decision. We are both going to the same counselor, but not together. I feel like an idiot for even wanting him back, but 13 years is a long time just to throw it all away, but I guess he didn't think about that when he met her (15 months ago). I am falling apart, thinking about my life and that everything that I thought my life was going to be is now gone.

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