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Women and men who have been affected by infidelity share their stories on how infidelity entered their lives and how they dealt with it. We invite you to read the stories that others have posted and encourage you to share your own story of betrayal and how you have coped so far.

Here are stories of how people just like you have found the courage and strength to survive the traumas of infidelity. To help others, and even yourself, please add your own story of how you survived infidelity, have grown, healed and moved on.

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My husband and I have been together for over 20 years, most of it married. Recently he confessed to being unfaithful...during our entire 20-plus year relationship. It wasn't an "affair" but the regular use of street prostitutes, massage parlours and escort services. It began before "us" when he was just a teenager, but the fact that he carried on for so long and even throughout my pregnancies leaves me dumbstruck. He's travelled extensively over the years with his job, which made it much easier for him to hide all this time. But I still feel a complete fool for not knowing until now. This has hit me harder than I ever could have imagined and I no longer know what's real and what isn't anymore. He says he has quit this behaviour forever and is completely prepared to move forward together (we're currently in therapy), but I am struggling with so much that I don't think I'm going to make it. My heart is completely, utterly shattered...

It is amazing to me that there isn't one single story in this category. It seems there are hundreds of posts, stories, books, etc. about how to mend a broken relationship, forgive, forget, but none that actually attempt to share that there is life on the 'other side' even if you are like my family and were 'left behind' for another woman. After 20+ years of marriage, my stepfather left my mother for a woman the same age as me. We all missed the signs. We were devistated especially because we felt like his decisions were final and out of our control. My mother, in an incredible show of resillience found the courage to return alone to her home state. There, without bitterness or regret.....she tried things she had always wanted to do, but never dared. She traveled, started a successful RE career with what little savings she had left, and is now the woman she always felt that she could be. A shining example for her three daughters. There is life on the other side. Even though we don't speak, we all forgave him. Forgiveness if you choose it doesn't mean the other person was right, it just means you can be free. Even if you were left behind.